In this session we're going to explore why relationships keep letting us down. So what is it about relationships that leaves us feeling annoyed, frustrated, lonely, heartbroken…and the list goes on. Most people will quickly jump to ..it's what the other person is doing, or saying or not doing or not saying… But notice how all of that resides outside of you and your control. When we set up our relationships this way, we're placing ourselves in a victim role, powerless to change our circumstances because we're never really in control of what another person thinks, or does or says….so it's all happening to us and we stay stuck in being at the effect of everything that's going on outside of ourselves. In this model we're totally reliant on what someone else thinks, does or says. We are essentially placing our emotional wellbeing in the hands of another.

In this session I want to explore the underlying root cause of so many of our problems, our insecurities, control issues, relationships issues, lack of self confidence, self sabotaging behaviours, over desires , addictions… and the list goes on and on. We fall for the illusion that all of it…. is outside of our control, which then places us in a victim role where we remain at the effect of. So life just keeps happening to us and in this model of the world, we end up remaining powerless which then has us operating from a place of fear.

The notion that "love never hurts" challenges common misconceptions about love by focusing on its pure essence, untainted by expectations, attachments, or fears. This perspective emphasizes that love is an emotion fuelled by our own thoughts and perceptions, not the actions of others. It clarifies that when we withdraw love, we're robbing ourselves of its benefits, given the experience of feeling love belongs to the person who has generated that emotion with their thoughts. The idea of love hurting often stems from unmet expectations, and by dropping these expectations, we can eliminate much of the disappointment and pain. Love, when understood as an emotion rather than a set of actions, encourages open communication, understanding, and empathy in relationships. With this approach, love transforms from a source of pain to a catalyst for growth, healing, and deeper connections. The key lies in recognizing that love's power comes from within us and that by fostering self-awareness and compassion, we can build fulfilling relationships and self-love. If you would like to listen to more episodes you can access the list from here: https://themindmanual.buzzsprout.com/ or subscribe from these channels. Apple Podcast here: https://link.themindmanual.com/apple Spotify here: https://link.themindmanual.com/spotify Google Podcasts here: https://link.themindmanual.com/google